Every year, we make a list of New Year’s resolutions that we have every intention of keeping – lose weight, stay on an exercise program, meditate, drink less wine – whatever it is, for most of us it lasts until the end of the month or if we’re lucky and strong-willed, until around St. Patrick’s Day. By spring, we have other things we’re worried about and the winter blues are no longer keeping us down so our resolutions don’t seem appropriate or interesting anymore.
Themes v. Lists
When I met my boyfriend, he introduced me to his method of making New Year’s resolutions. Instead of making a list of things he wants to improve, he picks a theme for the year. Make the theme is fiscal responsibility. In that case, every decision he makes this year should be to that end whether it’s paying off debts, saving a few more dollars, or not maxing out the credit cards. Themes are flexible and at the same time, further reaching. Once you feel like you’ve accomplished something small, there’s other things to do. For example, once you’re debt free, you can start putting more money away for retirement. Like that.
Year of Style
In this vein, my New Year’s theme this year is style. What exactly does that mean? Well, my favorite definition of style is “an elegant, fashionable, luxurious mode of living.” And this year, I’m going to do just that.
1. Style in clothes: only buy things in my size. Classic, timeless pieces that won’t go out of style after one season and that are made to fit me and made of quality materials. No more picking up sweaters on the clearance rack at H&M just because they’re on sale – start with the basics and make sure they’re things I can keep.
2. Style in experiences: spend money on experiences. Dining out at nice restaurants, traveling to interesting places, staying at memorable hotels and going out to more concerts, shows, and festivals.
3. Style at home: keeping our home as comfortable and luxurious as the five-star hotels we stay at. Fluffy towels, quality bed linens, nice lighting and all the little things that make our house a little more luxurious whether it’s technology improvements, Jo Malone candles in every room, fresh flowers or beautiful glassware. Style at home is something that will help me live stylishly and feel stylish even when I’m not doing anything.
4. Style in grooming: nails, eyebrows, waxing, facials, hair cuts – not putting them off and looking fabulous all the time, no excuses. I can start by getting my membership card at the salon and booking my appointments ahead of time so I don’t have an excuse to not go. I’m old enough that I can afford to do this and old enough to know that it makes a difference.
OK. Your turn.
I urge you to make this your year of style as well and follow me each month as I keep you updated on how my resolution is holding up. Or if there is another theme you want to pursue, I wish you all the best in the coming year.